Midlife Changes, Challenges and What Comes Next
For mums in their midlife, change is everywhere- family, children, their bodies. It can be hard to process and navigate whilst keeping the show on the road.
Letting Go
We found this tiny dinosaur in our car today, a relic of days gone by. We found it whilst clearing out the car which has sadly gone to car heaven after 12 years of service to our family.
I know it’s just a car, but we feel bereft. It’s not really the metal we’re sad about, it’s the acceptance that a stage of our lives as a family has gone.
For us the car conjures up many, many happy memories of two little boys, a puppy and tent in the back, off on adventures across the UK and France.
Now our eldest is about to embark on his GCSE’s and we’re replacing this car with a smaller one for them to learn to drive in. I mean it blows our mind that we’re old enough for this to be happening!
And that’s the crux of why I coach mums-especially around midlife- as these milestone transitions can be hard to navigate. They can leave you feeling lost and unsure about the future.
My journey
I know; I struggled to find personal meaning and purpose as my kids needed me less. I have always loved being a mum and was very happy and grateful to have the opportunity to be a full-time mum to two small boys. But as time ticked by, I was unsure what direction to take as they began to grow up. Whilst I still needed – and wanted – to be around for them, I also wanted something more for me too.
I spent years feeling a little lost, going around in circles with decisions and feeling my confidence ebb away. Deep down I knew I had more to give.
When I trained to be a coach, I realised that it brought together so many of my personal and professional skills and now I do what I’ve always wanted to do- help and support others.
Do I wish I’d had a coach back then?
Absolutely.
Did I know what a life coach was?
No, but I do remember a conversation with friends along the lines of “I could do with a careers advisor like we had in school.”
I now know I needed more than career advice, I needed to find my purpose again, but I wanted someone to talk it through with. Luckily, that’s where I can help YOU!
Four Easy Ways to Start
If this resonates and you’re struggling with your identity or career path as your kids grow up, or you’ve hit midlife and the menopause and are thinking what now? Let’s chat. I can help you turn that ‘what now?" into a clear direction which will lead you forwards with confidence, purpose, and excitement.
1. Try theseLive Your Values Deckfor £17. It’s a beautiful set of 78 illustrated cards for the most common core values. You rate each card for how important it is for you and then narrow them down to your priorities. It’s a wonderful exercise for us all to do every now and again to make sure we’re living our best life.
2. Vision boards I have annual vision board workshops where you can get creative in the company of like-minded women. Or book me to come and run one for you and some friends. They are a fun, creative way of mapping out the year ahead, your goals and aspirations. You can even do one at home if you have a big stockpile of magazines.
3. Journaling is a brilliant way to empty your head, spot the patterns-good and bad- in your daily life and highlight what might need to change.
4. Coaching imagine a private 1-1 space where you can talk without judgement, think freely, process emotions and plan. That’s what working with me feels like. I offer a free initial call, no strings attached to help you get started.
Whatever you do, if you’re feeling stuck in a rut, do something. Remember
‘Nothing changes if nothing changes.’
Helen x
You can book a call hereor email me at hello@helenlangdon.com
